How many
commitments that we make to ourselves, we honour? We hardly care to keep a
count. Sure, often we find that there always are unavoidable circumstances or
very pressing reasons for our failure. It never occurs to us that we are too
lenient to us and much strict with others. Not only this, if someone points out
how unreliable we are in keeping all those promises that we make to us, we try
to find faults with him. The important question is why we always give a very
favourable treatment to ourselves.
We cannot
afford to dislike ourselves. It is detrimental to our self confidence or self
respect. Self respect is an internal matter for all of us. Our pride may be
hurt due to external reasons, but no outsider can strip us of our self respect
unless we are on the wrong. If we are wrong, we have to rectify our errors to
keep our self respect intact. No doubt, hating oneself or cursing oneself is
bad for one’s psychological health. But,
does our concern for our psychological health grant us some kind of a license
for being on the wrong, having no remorse for being wrong and feeling no need
for rectifying the errors committed by us? No, it doesn’t.
It is our
utter neglect of our duties and much inclination towards self that makes us
unduly lenient to us without even bothering about the consequences thereof. We
become psychologically weak, we lack courage that a human being should
ordinarily possess and may develop a character that is grossly unreliable. If our credibility is doubtful, it is doubtful
for others as well as for us. Those who can’t be relied upon, have no self
respect. We must use the same yardstick for measuring ourselves that we use for
others.
PROMOD
KUMAR SHARMA
[The writer of this blog is also the author of “Mahatma A
Scientist of the Intuitively Obvious” and “In Search of Our Wonderful Words”.]
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